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Date archive for: October 2015

I’m a hypocrite

Posted in McChik10

I try to be the type of person who does not judge others. I believe that you are solely responsible for your own choices, good or bad, you live with the consequences of those decisions. Because you have chosen one path and I another does not make you right and me wrong, or vice-versa. I can’t know the circumstances that led you to that choice. I can’t honestly say that in the same circumstances I wouldn’t make the same choice. This is a principle I try very hard to live by. Now you know what’s coming… but… Yes, I have…

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Hey, Sexy Lady!

Posted in chikntender9

Every woman needs an ego fix once in a while.  Not that our gender is in any way vain or overly needy but for the sheer pleasure of being on the receiving end of a compliment as often, wherever, and whenever they pop up.  It just does a body good.  However, I’ve learned that, as I age gracefully (fingers crossed), a compliment can go awry and create a very uncomfortable situation for the receiver, the giver and those that were privy to it. It was a triple digit day and one where the relative humidity created a muggy, steam-room feeling…

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Bucket List

Posted in Gr8fate

As a child, I had dreams. As a young adult, I had goals. Now that I am older, I have a bucket list. One goal was to catch a hummingbird and pet it. Opportunity came knocking on my door (banging on my window) a couple of summers ago. That hummer flew into my window and knocked itself out. It was lying on the barbecue grill. I picked it up and put it in a paper bag. Five minutes later, it started fluttering. I gently placed my hand inside and I was able to hold it. I did pet it several…

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I Hate You

Posted in C7

My mom once told me that I will love my child no matter what, but I have to raise him so others will “like” him. Even though I wasn’t a young, first time mom, I didn’t grasp what she was telling me so I asked her to elaborate. She said that if my child doesn’t have anger towards me or tell me that he hates me, then I’m doing something wrong. What? I don’t want my kid to hate me. I love my mom with all my heart, what the heck is she talking about? Fast forward a few years…

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Whose mirror is that anyway?

Posted in starchiksix

Today, I got my feelings hurt. Let me tell y’all this turning 30 thing has taught me a lot. So, I thought I was a fun-loving, cool, down-to-earth, cute type of girl. Today, I realized I am still all of those things but also a little insecure and sensitive. I work in a doctor’s office. We are frequented with pharmaceutical reps. Usually we are inundated with Barbie chicks with the annoying laugh and flip of the hair as they flirt with my boss. Or sometimes the reps who look like old Vegas hookers and are pushy and maybe should’ve had…

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Tough Guy

Posted in Chic#5

This is my life… A man, according to Merriam-Webster’s dictionary, is “an adult male who shows the qualities (such as strength and courage) that men are traditionally supposed to have.” Society portrays a man to be strong, tough, a protector, a fighter…the list goes on and on.  This sounds just like Russell Crowe in the movie Gladiator – I don’t know about you ladies, but I want a man that can fight off tigers and drop-kick the muscle head at the bar, in my  honor of course, and then swallow me up in his enormous arms…”oh hunny, you saved me!”…

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Relationship Roaches

Posted in 4ChickaChickaBoom

As a young child, I quickly identified that I wanted nothing to do with being a “third wheel”. If I was invited over to a friend’s house, I quickly asked if this was going to be that person and me, or a grouping of friends. If it was a grouping, I politely declined the offer. It wasn’t something my parents instilled in me, in fact, I think that they would have liked me to have more friends during that point in my life. When I was in High School and College this all changed. The yearning for friends, whether good…

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Who Ate the Chocolate?

Posted in #3chickstothewind

This is gonna be a short one! I’ve got life happening around me and my multi-tasking skills have gone bi-polar, which I love in the manic state, ’cause I can get some shit done, but not today. He came home with a big chocolate Hershey Bar the other night.  The ones that can feed like 10, I mean 3 people.  He put it in the freezer and broke a piece, a tiny square, offered me half and said, “I love chocolate & I love you!!!” I smiled and thought, if you love me so much, why did you eat my…

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Changing Viewpoints

Posted in La Segunda Chica

  The decline was gradual, I suppose.  The day my boss laughingly offered to hold a page of small print farther away so that I could read it.  The afternoon sitting at my kitchen table grading a stack of essays and realizing, damn, that writing looks blurry.  Going to Walgreens and buying the first pair of readers.  I only needed them if I had a lot of grading to do, or if the text I was reading was particularly small. The cheaters culture was not new, my husband began buying the 5 packs of cheap wire-rims at Costco years before.  I…

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Little Victories

Posted in justachik1

I sit in this lobby – across from them.  Mother and daughter – separated by twenty-odd years.  And, I surreptitiously watch. I recognize myself in both of them. The girl – about fifteen – struggling.  Over what?  She doesn’t know.  I never did.  Every day is a struggle.  It’s a struggle to just be.  Most days the act of breathing in and out is a victory. For me, it started young. Me:  Mommy, do you ever feel sad just because? Mom:  No, Sweetie, there must be a reason.  Do you want to talk about it? Me:  No. Some children have…

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