I had a whole different post that I was going to post, but I picked my daughter up today and things changed.
My daughter just started 8th grade basketball. I am so happy to be a part of it even though I think the coach is actually a seventh grader. My daughter walks out with her friend every day. The friend has to wait 15-20 minutes for her parents to get there.
Last week, my daughter divulged that her aunt passed away and they have her cousin living with her. When the aunt passed the custody paperwork wasn’t complete, which now results in meetings, hearings, inspections, etc. This mom couldn’t come and be on time to pick up her daughter. And the daughter had already missed a few practices.
My heart dropped. I understand the situation but I thought maybe I could help. I quickly called the mom up and offered assistance. I told her I didnt want to pry but I heard what was going on. I could pick her daughter up and drop her off at home to make her load lighter. She said she wanted to think about it and would let me know.
Fast forward to today, as I leave the girls’ first game and her friend approaches me. She says thanks for offering to help but I got in trouble. I’m not supposed to talk about what’s going on at home.
I get it, I really do. Everyone’s business is their own. I also understand you can’t trust anyone these days. I was only offering to help. My intentions were not to get this girl in trouble. There have been many times that I haven’t been able to get to my child on time and wish I had the help.
I feel horrible that this child was reprimanded due to my desire to help. More importantly, why didn’t the mom call me herself and tell me to screw off. I had to explain to my daughter that although you try to do something nice for someone, it doesn’t always turn out good.
What I’ve learned today is I can’t always help and especially if someone is hiding something behind closed doors. I just hope for the sake of my daughter’s friend, they figure it out so she doesn’t have to miss out on a good opportunity.